How does one become confident? Confidence is all about trust. A part of loving yourself is trusting yourself.
“Whatever people think of you is really about the image they have of you, and that image isn’t you.”Miguel Ruiz, The Fifth Agreement: A Practical Guide to Self-Mastery
Re-evaluate your values
Check-in with your belief system. Re-evaluate your values in every subject. Do you still believe the values you follow? Do you actually follow out with the values you created or do you break those values? Set some boundaries and stand up for yourself in areas you lack.
I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and lock eyes with that beautiful soul you are staring at (YOU) and repeat some positive affirmations.
- I am beautiful/handsome
- I am important
- I am enough
- I am a joy to be around
- I can do it
- I believe in myself
- I am doing my best
- Great things are awaiting
Finding your style
Finding your style is all about discovering what you like and seeing what feels comfortable. Whether it’s the clothes you like, the interior design of your home, or even the accessories you pick out. It’s great to brainstorm on what you think you like before scrolling on Pinterest or TikTok for inspiration. Doing this will make you feel creative and unique because it’s not what everybody else is doing. Following the crowd will only make you blend in. Confidence is all about being passionate about yourself. This leads us on to another way of feeling and being confident.
Discover your passion
What do you like to do? And no, it doesn’t have to be super sophisticated like playing an instrument or knowing how to draw. It’s about what brings YOU happiness. Write 3 things that make you happy and do one thing you like every week. Having a passion also helps you deal with critics; you have something to focus on instead of haters trying to bring your self-esteem to the ground.
Write a list about the things you “actually” like about yourself
Kiss your flaws. Accept the past and the things you cannot change. This is all a part of loving yourself. We are our worst critics. Nobody judges us as much as we judge ourselves. What do you like about yourself? Your eyes? The way your voice sounds? Or maybe it’s that one little dimple that pops out every time you smile. However, don’t just think physical appearance-wise, your personality plays a huge role, especially in the way people see and treat you. Is it the way you make people laugh and smile? Or maybe it’s that’s go-getter attitude you have? Contemplate on that subject. Sometimes asking a close friend what they like most about you, helps.